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Anyone can do it

Anyone and everyone can regulate their emotions. Whether you are a child or a 100-year-old (the oldest person we know using it is 105!), someone who lives with a physical or mental condition, or someone who has tried everything else and given up – you can do this.  Emotional regulation is simple to learn and once you get started, you’ll see you have the power to do this by yourself.

How though?

With emotional regulation, there is no need to talk about or analyse what happened to us. This means you can do it yourself by tapping into your emotions through the physical sensations that your body feels.

You know why this works? Because, the root cause of any undesirable emotion is always linked to trauma recorded in our body’s memory, and this manifests itself in physical sensations. People of all ages are able to ‘listen’ to these physical sensations within ourselves, and by doing so, we have the natural capacity to break through them.

How to do it

There are two ways to do this:

1. When you’re in the situation experiencing an unpleasant emotion 

Our capacity for emotional regulation is a natural physiological process that we can activate when we experience an unpleasant emotion. It’s so easy and intuitive that children as young as five can do it themselves. (We offer training that teaches you how to help children under the age of 5 or those with severe learning disabilities.)

2. After the situation, looking back at the emotion you experienced

When we can no longer feeling an emotion as you experience it, it’s not possible to activate our natural capacity to regulate it. However, a professional trained by the Tipi Association can help you relive the emotion in a sensory way in your body, when you are no longer experiencing that emotion.

You can find the best professional help for you here. (Please note, professional consultations are not available to children under 10 years of age or people with severe learning difficulties.)

So, when is a good time to consult a professional?

Here are a few examples that we know of:

– I plan to do something in the future that usually provokes an unpleasant emotion. For example, I’m due to sit an exam and I generally have panic attacks in an exam setting.

– It’s not appropriate or possible to regulate the emotion in the situation. For example, I am afraid to drive but I can’t regulate that fear when I’m driving.

– I want to feel reassured by having someone with me to regulate the emotion. For example, even if I know that it is very simple and that there is no risk, I feel apprehensive about starting to regulate emotions on my own.

– I’m confused about the situation that triggers my emotion. For example, I can’t say no to my children but I’m not sure exactly when I’m experiencing the emotion that means I can’t say no.

– I want ongoing in-depth support to regulate my conscious and unconscious emotions. For example, I want to establish healthy and happy relationships with my whole family.

– I suffer from psychosomatic disorders. For example, my eczema is clearly related to my emotions, but I don’t know how to make the connection.

– I want to use emotional regulation as a prevention strategy for my health … because I know that emotional difficulties impact my health. For example, I am often tired and I regularly have problems with my health.

– I have compulsive and behavioural disorders that stop me from living my life simply. For example, I’m constantly looking at my mobile phone for new messages and notifications, or I have to check several times to make sure I’ve locked my house or car, even though I know I locked them!